7 Tips for Guys Asking – How Do I Get a Girlfriend?

So, if you are reading this, you are most likely one of the thousands of guys asking, «How do I get a girlfriend?» Fear not – I am here to tell you how to find a girlfriend by supplying you with the seven essential tips you need to know.

How to Find a Girlfriend Tip #1

If you are asking, «How do I get a girlfriend?», the first thing you need to do is make sure you do not set out to try to find one. That’s right: You might think that your goal is to get a girlfriend, but it isn’t. Right now, your goal is simply to get to the next step in finding a girlfriend, which is to expand your social network. By doing this, you will feel less lonely and will increase your chances of finding a good woman. Remember, a good detective rarely goes directly to the criminal; first he looks around for evidence indicating the path to his most wanted.

How to Find a Girlfriend Tip #2

Remember that you want to be the chooser, not the chosen. This is the only way that you can keep up a confident, strong attitude and stay in a position of power. Think of it as the relationship between an interviewer and an interviewee for a job. Which one would you rather be? Would you rather be the guy who is in there kissing up and trying to sell himself to a company that may or may not end up being interested in him, or do you want to be the guy who is sitting comfortably on the other side of the table holding all of the power and being the one who gets to choose from many applicants? Of course, we all want to be the guy doing the choosing.

In order to accomplish this, you need to go into this with the attitude of the interviewer and keep that mindset as you check out each girl’s qualifications. There is a huge difference between guys who are trying to impress women and guys who are seeing if any of the women in the room can impress them.

How to Find a Girlfriend Tip #3

Become a social networking whiz. If you are at the point of asking, «How do I get a girlfriend?», then it is time for you to take a good look at your social network. You need to think about the people you know, and then you need to think about the people they know. Figure out who can help you expand your social network fastest and make them a priority as you begin to work on getting yourself invited to events on their social calendars.

The first step is to simply reconnect with people you know and build rapport through lunch, drinks or going out. The goal here is to make sure they think of you the next time they are hosting or attending a party or other social event. Don’t be shy: Now is the time to feel free to mention that right now you are just focusing on socializing with friends and meeting new people, and that you would love to hang out again if anything comes up. Then, make sure he has your Facebook, phone and email contact information. Better yet, get some cards printed with that info to hand out on just this sort of occasion. Now that you have successfully become a part of his networking loop, your next step is to start making new friends at all of the parties and social events you will soon be attending.

How to Find a Girlfriend Tip #4

Use multiple methods and strategies. Guys cannot afford to just rely on a single method of meeting girls. This is so important that it is one of the main strategies in my method for finding quality women to date. The reason you can’t just rely on one method is that doing so will leave you stranded if you end up failing to get that method to work as you had hoped. You will be dead in the water with nowhere to turn, which will affect your success and your attitude.

Think of dating like owning stocks: Putting all of your eggs in just one basket is never a good idea. The best bet is to spread out the risk over a few chosen methods, ensuring that you will not get burned if one doesn’t work out. Now, this doesn’t mean that you should go nuts, because too many methods are also a problem. If you go over five, you are probably not going to have the chance to work on getting really good at any of them. So, just choose your fave five and get to work on perfecting them.

Here’s my fave five:

  • Online dating
  • Speed dating
  • Social events and parties
  • Social networking
  • Daytime approach

How to Find a Girlfriend Tip #5

Know which type of woman you want. You need to know the qualities that you are looking for in a woman in order to be able to choose the right woman for you. Multiple traits are going to be required to be able to create a solid relationship, particularly if you want to keep the woman around.

Something you will notice about most pickup artists is that they don’t usually have what it takes to keep a relationship for any length of time. Sure, they can pick girls up like nobody’s business, but you will see them quickly clam up if anyone goes up and asks them, «Hey, how do I get a girlfriend that will actually last?»

I have been in long-term relationships, as well as some super short ones, so I can tell you how to keep a quality woman around. And, out of everything I have learned over the years, one thing has always been true: You have to know what you want in a woman.

This sometimes means…

How to Find a Girlfriend #6

You need to date enough girls to figure out what you actually want in a woman. Way too many guys don’t date nearly enough women to really determine the qualities they want. And, interestingly, I have never heard a man who has dated a lot of girls say that he still is looking for the same things in women now that he was looking for when he first began. It is only after dating multiple women that you will figure out that a lot of the things you thought you were looking for really are not as important to you as you first thought. And, this is also how you will learn the qualities that you really want and that really are important to you.

Both men and women tend to rush the whole dating thing and hurry their way into a relationship, since most people hate dating or hate being single. This is how guys end up falling into the first relationship that comes their way or choosing their partner poorly. Believe me, you are not going to be happy if you make the wrong choice.

It is better for you to be alone than to be with the wrong girl.

And, finally, here is the tip that has worked like a charm all of these years and has always ensured that I had a girlfriend when I wanted one.

How to Find a Girlfriend Tip #7

Get out and meet people – lots of people. It doesn’t even matter what kind of people you meet. Some people that you meet will become casual acquaintances, some will become friends, some will become business contacts, some will end up being girlfriends and some you will probably never see again. That’s why you have to meet as many people as possible to always make sure you stack the odds in your favor. You never know who might end up introducing you to your next girlfriend, so it doesn’t matter if the people you meet are young or old, male or female, weird or cool. Just get out there and meet people.

There is no way to know how you are going to end up with your next girlfriend. So, the best thing to do is just follow these tips and treat it like a puzzle you are working to solve.