How to Read Girls’ Body Language and How to Know She Likes You

How to read girls’ body language and how to know she likes you are not necessarily things that come naturally to most guys. There are plenty of guys who have a hard time figuring out if a girl is flirting with them, so if you are one of them, you don’t need to feel alone in this. The funny part is that it is actually pretty easy to read a girl’s mind; all you have to do is pay attention to her body language and mannerisms. While this skill is largely intuitive, it is possible to learn it, and I am here to help you learn to recognize the green lights girls give to let you know if they are interested and want you to approach them.

She likes you if…

Below, I have listed some of the basics that will show you what to look for and teach you how to read girls’ body language and how to know she likes you.

She might be interested if she:

  • Smoothes or straightens her clothing
  • Puts one or both hands on her hips
  • Positions her body to be facing you
  • Positions her feet pointing towards you
  • Touches or smoothes her hair
  • Maintains ongoing eye contact
  • Increases the frequency of making eye contact
  • Looks you up and down
  • Acquires a flushed or rosy-cheeked complexion
  • Tosses her hair or head back
  • Exposes one or both of her wrists in your direction
  • Exposes one or both of the palms of her hands
  • Glances at you sideways
  • Sways her hips when walking past or away from you
  • Places her hands near her breasts or lap
  • Opens her legs somewhat (demonstrating unfulfilled sexual need)
  • Wets her lips and slightly opens her mouth
  • Has dilated pupils (this one is great as an indicator, since she really has no control over this)

Okay, so now that you have a better idea of how to read girls’ body language and how to know she likes you, let’s say that you encounter a woman who is displaying some of these behaviors towards you. Now, it’s time to take the next step, which is to approach her

Once you have approached and you are having a conversation, your job switches from looking for those initial body language clues to hearing what she is really saying, rather than just what happens to be coming out of her mouth.

We have all heard the sayings about how talk is cheap and actions speak louder than words. Both of these adages are true, so keep them mind and make sure you pay attention to how the girl is acting, not just the actual words that she is saying. With a little practice, you will be able to easily tell when there is genuine emotion behind the words coming out of someone’s mouth.

The best way to understand body language

To get in some solid practice, go to a public place where there are plenty of people around to observe. A great place to do this is a coffee shop or mall. You can also learn a lot at a club, but people might start wondering who the crazy guy is who is sitting in the corner and making notes. Once you have picked a spot and settled in, make some notes about people’s interactions with others, including how they move and position their arms, hips and heads, what they do with their eyes while talking to others, their facial expressions, their emotions and their overall attitude.

Now, you might think of some of the homework assignments that I give you as optional, but this one isn’t. The best and only way to really get a handle on knowing how to read girls’ body language is to observe people interacting and practice picking up on their non-verbal cues and body language.

Imagine yourself in a coffee shop watching other people interact. Let’s say you see two different tables near you, each with a guy and a girl sitting at them. At one of the tables, the girl is looking down, looking through her purse or watching folks walk in, while the guy is actively checking out other girls. At the other table, the guy has his attention focused on the girl sitting across from him who, in turn, never takes her eyes off of him and playfully touches his hand off and on while they chat. It is easy to see that the people at the first table are either on a really bad blind date, or they are just friends or co-workers. The people at the second table are obviously into each other. Now, you haven’t heard a word of their conversation, so how can you know this? It’s all in the body language. You will find that watching others is exactly what you need to learn how to know she likes you and how to read girls’ body language. With a little practice, it will become second nature to pick up on whether or not a girl wants you to approach her and what she is really saying once you do.